Are you scared?
Let’s have a little talk about goal setting.
Why? Because most of you suck at it. For real. I don’t say this to be mean but just to illustrate the truth. Most people are really bad at setting goals.
Because you’re scared. Want to know why people run half marathons instead of full marathons? Because it is safer. It’s easier. Doesn’t seem as daunting.
There is less chance of failing.
“I never looked at the consequences of missing a big shot… when you think about the consequences you always think of a negative result.”
Because apparently everyone thinks if you set a goal and don’t accomplish it then you instantly die. Or even worse – your peers and family and friends will ridicule you mercilessly until you are so shamed moving to a hut in Tibet will become the only viable option.
So instead of challenging your limits and finding out what you are capable of accomplishing the more commonly opted option is just to set an easier goal. Often this goal is actually something the goal setter can most likely already accomplish.
Isn’t that dumb.
I cannot tell you how many clients I work with that just aren’t willing to try. They aren’t willing to set that goal. To really push themselves. To test their limits. Because when you test your limits you might fail. It could happen. Everyday I hear someone say, ‘I can’t lift that weight,” “I can’t do a full marathon,” “Maybe if I was younger,” “If I wasn’t so busy I might be able to.”
Blah blah blah blah blah. Makes me want to strangle them.
Never failing is not good for you. It is like giving every kid at the tournament a medal. That doesn’t make any sense. There is a winner. The rest aren’t. You need to learn that. You’re going to set a goal and then bust your ass to hit it. You might not. That’s ok. You will learn, get better and come back stronger next time.
I train a lot of athletes. Really high end athletes. They achieve awesome things. Why? Because they are genetic freaks? Because their life is dedicated to exercise? No. Because they set awesome goals.
When you set your goal as competing in the Olympics you can bet a little nerves and fear creep into the mindset. Before a competition or event every athlete feels nervous.
Geroge St. Pierre – one of the worlds top MMA athletes recently said, “ and I’m very nervous the week of the fight.” Yeah – GSP gets nervous.
Nerves are ok. Where I am really going here is that you SHOULD be nervous and SCARED of your goal.
That means you have picked the right goal. There should be a chance you will fail. Otherwise it is not a goal it is just something you are going to do.
Sometimes you will fail. Everyone will still like you after. You learn from that and then you revamp your training and push harder for the next time. If you do not try, if you do not ever set that goal – then you will never find out just what you are capable of. Ever.
So. Set a goal that scares you. That is beyond your comfort zone.
If you are not a little scared it is not a real goal.
-Strength Coach Taylor
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.